Dentists, Dancing, Desire And Getting Called Out By Martha Beck

What's Happening- surviving the cold,  and epiphanies at the dentist 

How are you?  If you're somewhere cold and snowy, I hope you're staying cozy.  We survived the snowpocalypse of late January here in NOLA.  We had the tiniest bit of icy accumulation and plenty of cold and schools were closed for two days! I went to the wetlands with an out of town client coming for a coaching intensive and there were sheets of ice on the water amidst the cypress knees - something I've never seen before! 

In more recent news, I had a long appointment at the dentist this week. Somehow regular dental check ups fell by the wayside in the past couple of years and now I am paying the price.  I feel ridiculous about allowing preventable issues to get so bad.  Nevertheless, there I was, numbed to kingdom come and waiting for the dentist to return.  With nothing to do.  My phone and book out of reach.  Just sitting there, being.  Seemed like a good time to reflect. And to really feel my body.   

I noticed I was already tensed up. So I consciously breathed and relaxed my whole body.  And when the dentist returned and practically climbed inside my mouth to get to my back tooth that had a rather tremendous cavity, I did my best to keep breathing and relaxing while drills and motors whirred and my teeth were subjected to much poking, prodding and excavating. It wasn't easy.  My body kept wanting to tense and stop breathing.  I had to keep consciously returning to calm as best I could.   

When the first round of Novocaine (or whatever they use these days) wore off, oh my goodness, there was some pain.  I really had a hard time breathing.  I wanted to hold my breath through the pain.  Again I had to remind myself to breathe. That tensing up wasn't helping.   

That's my tendency - to stop breathing when I'm stressed, in pain, or anxious.  And it's easy to be anxious about something all the time, if you're not careful.   

Try it right now.  Is your body tense? Are you breathing deeply and calmly, no matter what the circumstances are? If not, give yourself the gift of three relaxing deep breaths. Right now.  I feel better - I hope you do too!  This is such a simple fix but I need to remind myself to do it so I thought you'd appreciate the reminder too. 

What's inspiring me - The NOLA Chorus Girls! 

When I mapped out my own Happiness Project for the year, January was for rest, and February was for desire and dancing.  But I decided to start early with the dancing so I could finally join the NOLA Chorus Girl Project! This fantastic dancing group welcomes everyone. You need no previous dance experience (I had virtually none), but it's amazing how quickly you can learn! 

The instructors choose a different dance each session from the golden age of the 20s and 30s and teach it to everyone so we can perform it live. It's fun, welcoming and there's never any reprimanding or singling out.  The teachers are exceptional.  This felt like a risk and a big leap for me, but it has been sooo rewarding!  I may still look like Olive Oyl when I'm dancing - all arms and legs akimbo, but I'm learning fast! And it's one more way I can truly inhabit my body and breathe!  If you're in NOLA and looking for a wonderful dance opportunity, check out the


Halfway Through January - Is It Time To Rest Yet?

Inspiration for your path -  REST and tiny things...plus journaling ideas! 

Do you get a little panicky halfway through January?  Feeling like it was just New Year's Eve and now we're already 1/24 through the year?  How did that happen? The new moon has suddenly become a full moon - time keeps on ticking, ticking ticking...  [hmm - will Carla include 1970s song video links in every upcoming post?  That would be fun! This is worth a click simply to see the double-necked guitar!] 

I lose my time perspective when I project too far into the future and forget to notice all the cool small things happening.  Perhaps I intuitively remembered that this week as my Instagram feed was full of images of small things like bugs and feathers. Tiny things help me remember to REST, just for a moment. 

You know I prioritized REST for January, and I've managed, amidst the events, appointments,  TV appearances, dance classes (attending!) and money calls (hosting!) to rest a little each day.  To go outside and breathe. And look around. Here's the question:  If not now, when?  When I get those other ten things done?  If I'm not enjoying and savoring in the present moment, when will I enjoy and savor it?  

There are strawberries at the farmers' market!  The sky is a spectacular shade of blue!  And the sun filtering through the oak trees is like a miracle.  

One last thing - are you journaling in 2014? If you haven't started yet, or your journal plans fell by the wayside, don't worry - you can pick it up again anytime!  I hosted an awesome journal making party this weekend (it filled up so fast in the Meetup group that it never made it to my email news!) and it was divine! 10 women decorated ten beautiful and unique journals!  If you're looking for some journalling ideas for the new year,  Click here to download a list to inspire you! 

Meanwhile, don't forget to rest!  The year is already 1/24 over - if you've been going, going, going, it's definitely time to take a break!  Ahh!